Are You Addicted To Your Activities?
by: Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
- such as sports, creative projects, reading, work, TV, meditation - can be a
wonderful way to relax, express yourself, or connect
to yourself. Or they can be an addiction. How can you know the difference?
or not an activity is an addiction depends upon your INTENT.
an activity is used as a way to avoid something - painful feelings, difficult
or boring tasks - it becomes an addiction. It’s really no different than using
substances such alcohol, drugs, or food to avoid painful feelings or
challenging tasks. The problem with using addictions to avoid painful feelings
is that the feelings don’t actually go away. They are just numbed for the
moment but are silently eroding one’s sense of self. We can get away with it
only for so long before it shows up in some way - illness, divorce, depression,
and so on. And avoiding tasks means that the tasks pile up, eventually causing
the very stress we want to avoid. Our society is filled with ways to avoid. Yet
it is avoidance that leads to the very feelings we are striving to avoid!
the intent of an activity is to take loving care of yourself
by providing yourself with fun, creativity and expression, relaxation, personal
growth, spiritual growth, physical health and well-being, then it is a loving
action rather than an addiction. It all depends on your INTENT.
time you want to participate in your favorite activity, you might want to
notice your intent. Do you want to relax and watch TV or are you avoiding some
difficult feeling or task? Do you find yourself scheduling more work than you
can really handle to avoid dealing with aloneness, loneliness, or conflict with
a mate, or are you really loving your work and feeling fulfilled by it? Are you
exercising to support your health or to avoid feelings?
you become aware of using an activity to avoid, here’s what you can do about
will find your addictions fading away as you learn to take loving care of
Paul, Ph.D. is the best-selling author and co-author of eight books,
including "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You?" She is the
co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding healing process. Learn Inner Bonding
now! Visit her web site for a
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